Top Three Lessons I Learned from My Grandma’s Bereavement

Got the pic from google.
Got the pic from google.

As I continue to journey the life I have I realized that life itself is unpredictable and full of uncertainties.  I might be active on writing this piece right now but I could never tell if I would still be alive the next day or so. The thought of leaving the body that God has blessed us with is scary but if we truly understand what the bible says about everlasting life, we will be able to fully accept what death means.

As with the death of my grandma, I realized loads of things and learned lots of lessons lncluding…

  • Life is but a dream – My grandma had lived for more than 80 years but after her last breath, I felt like every memory I shared with her only happened in my dream. I can’t believe that she is not here anymore. That no matter what I do or say, everything I hold of at this very moment were all just wonderful memories. I’m just glad though that I haven’t done or said anything that had made her upset. I may not be a perfect granddaughter but I did my part the best way I know I can.
  • Compassion – My late grandma is one of the most compassionate and generous women I know. She didn’t have much in life but she never failed to share what she has with others. Honestly, I think I resemble her generosity and attitude of being so compassionate with others.I remember when my ex prepared fruit shakes for everyone in the house; grandma said she will reserve her glass of fruit shake to Nanay Josephine, her eldest daughter who is my mother that left for Bacolod that time to buy our needs at home. When Lola said that, I realized how thoughtful and kind she is. I hope there are still loads of people like my grandma. The world would be a better place for sure if everyone is kind and thoughtful enough towards their loved ones.
  •  Appreciate – I often hear my grandma appreciating those who are kind to her. She always ensures to name out people who remember her on a regular basis. Three days after her death, I had the chance to talk to one of my Aunties who resides next to my grandma’s house back in the farm. She told me how my grandma bragged about my kindness towards her. My eyes burst in tears after knowing how grateful she was that I am her granddaughter. Her appreciation for all that I have done, are some of the things that truly made me happy. For me, appreciation is one of keys to make other people feel loved and valued.

3 Useful Tips to Be Happy


One of the most byzantine things in life is finding real happiness. Loads of people I know believed with the concept that they will only achieve real happiness once they become rich. I can’t agree or disagree with this belief knowing the fact that each of us follows different formulas in finding happiness.
On the other hand, I would like to share what Mr. Jim Carry said on one of his quotes, I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dreamed of, so they will know that it’s not the answer. Yes, obviously, it feels perfectly great if you have money, abundant of it to be exact, but why there are loads of millionaires who are still chasing happiness though they already have plenty of cash in their hands? They could just buy this, and that – name it and they will have it. But again, why there are still a lot of millionaires who get caught up committing suicide because of life’s complexity and not being able to find real happiness? These questions are all complicated but the good news is we are not going to focus on these. So before I run out of time, let me dispense with you some of the tips to be truly happy in accordance with my own personal experiences.

  • Give time, and always appreciate – a lot of people I know do not acknowledge the power of appreciation. Yes, all of us want to feel appreciated with the little things we do. Even small children in school desires to be appreciated with their not-so-perfect sketches on the paper. Someone I know back in my high school days shared his story with me why be has been so rude, and mean during our high school years. He told me that his parents were so busy making a living that they failed to appreciate his achievements in school. Later on, he engaged himself doing not-so-big crimes in school like stealing a little, cheating a little, bullying our classmates etc., and when he got caught, he would be so happy that his parents could visit him at school and interrogate questions about his misconduct. For him, that would only be the time for his parents to see how he is, and what’s really going on with him. I am not a parent yet, but I can attest to this experience. Personally, I would love to encourage everyone to appreciate what others do for you, even if it’s just too little. Remember great things came from small ones. I am not a professional writer or life coach but I highly believe the great impact of the so called restoration process which means I prefer to restore what’s broken rather than destroy it. Hmm, reminds me of The song entitled Fix You by The Cold Play band. Such a beautiful song! Worth listening to, promise!
  • Practice Empathy – countless of businesses triumphed by practicing empathy. But what is empathy? Well, empathy means putting yourself to another person’s shoes. In ilonggo it is what we call Pasunaid. More often, I feel dismayed seeing other people’s insensitivity towards others. When it happens I just take a deep breath and tell myself I wish these insensitive people would learn to be sensitive with others feelings and circumstances, I wish these people would learn how to practice empathy towards others. I know we cannot blame them or teach them to be like this or like that but I hope one day insensitive people would learn to be sensitive, and compassionate. I know I cannot teach everyone, but I believe this article could somehow get somewhere and I would be very happy if in a way or another, it could touch lives, and soften bitter hearts. In my personal experience I have always admired a number of friends I’m connected with who remains understanding and professional despite of my circumstances and shortcomings. These people taught me to be more considerate, and more sensitive with those who are being so unfair with me in the past and even these days. Let us teach ourselves to stay cool and compassionate despite of our circumstances. At the end of the day, its not what we do that matters but it’s how we made other people feel. With that, let’s treat others the way we want to be treated. This is the golden rule. Our teacher taught us about this since grade school. Hmm I wonder though why others aren’t implementing this.
  •  Pray, let go and learn to just accept things that is beyond your control – there are things in life that we cannot control or direct, but we can always teach ourselves to accept them with all our heart, mind and might. Let’s teach ourselves to learn to be responsive rather than reactive.

What I want My Man to Be

downloadI am not really looking for a rich man who can give me this and that, who can buy me this and that. I believe if two people love each other, they will help each other achieve their goals and dreams together. If there is love, there’s commitment and the rest will just follow.

My parents started from scratch but they were able to send us to prestigious schools and have provided our needs and even our wants which is cool. *wink* They did their best to give us the life we have now, we may not have everything but we are happy together despite of the ups and downs we go through. The bottom line is, my father was so in love with my mother that he was completely ready to die just to prove his love. When they met,  my father didn’t have enough money to spend for their wedding, and with that, he had to go to Manila to work for the Roxas and Lacson family, doing construction projects.

I don’t want to brag but apart from being a great father, and a great husband, my Tatay was also a good carpenter. While in Manila, he worked hard, and saved as much as he can. After a couple of years he came back and married my mother. Their love story made me realized that if something is really worth it, it wouldn’t be easy at all. Something of great value takes time, and it requires determination, persistency, and dedication.

And in accordance to how I want my future partner to be, here are the top three qualities I want my him to possess.

  • He must understand and recognized the true meaning of respecting and loving his parents. Respect, discipline and other moral values starts from home. If the guy doesn’t know the real importance of respecting his parents, it would be pretty hard to discipline or change him to be a better man.
  • He must be a man of virtue and knowledge. You can’t share what you do not have, you can’t teach what you do not know, and you can’t impose what you do not possess. A man of virtue and knowledge knows how important it is to be a better man simply because that’s what he was created for. Men were designed to be a source of goodness and wisdom. If this truth is not acknowledged first, it would be hard to make someone believe it.
  • He must be compassionate with others, and above all he must have faith to the One UP Above – who created us and the universe.